Fall semester topics

Bullying - mobbing in colleges and universities

Bullies - profile Bullies are bred in homes where inconsistent parenting patterns and inconsistent consequences and abusive, bullying behaviors become the role model. Some bullies are spoilt children who never experience behavior boundaries. Some come from homes where there are so many problems that they are neglected emotionally or where the relationship between their parents is poor, stressful and even abusive. There are two main types of bullies, the malicious who have been born with psychopathic or sociopathic tendencies (their brains are wired differently to ordinary children e.g. they like hurting animals) and those who are basically non-malicious but use bullying behaviors. I personally suspect we are dealing here with type 2 behavior.

Bullies often think:
- It's a game
- I can get away with it
- It will make me popular
- They are so weak
- It does not hurt
- Everyone does it

Resulting Problems
Abuse and neglect inhibit the development of children's trust in the world, in others, and in themselves. Later as adults, these people may find it difficult to trust the behaviors and words of others, their own judgements and actions, or their own senses of selfworth. Not surprisingly, they may experience problems in their academic work, their relationships, and in their very identities.

In common with other people, abused and neglected family members often struggle to interpret their families as "normal." The more they have to accommodate to make the situation seem normal (e.g., "No, I wasn't beaten, I was just spanked. My father isn't violent, it's just his way"), the greater is their likelihood of misinterpreting themselves and developing negative self concepts (e.g., "I had it coming; I'm a rotten kid"). Information was adapted from here.

Further helpful websites:

- Useful resource page about profiles
- How to become more assertive
- 7 Ways to Deal with College Roommates That Bully
- Breaking Free of Dysfunctional Family Patterns
- Types Of Dysfunctional Families
- Further tips on the topic
- Useful article about cyberbullying - what makes people vulnerable

Recommended books

Aly Walsh: A Guide to Bullyproofing yourself in College (Beating the Bullies Book 3) Lynne Curry Ph.D. Beating the Workplace Bully: A Tactical Guide to Taking Charge

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